Adjustments

May 10th, 2010

I've been noticing that Carter and Ben are having trouble adjusting to Benjamin's presence. I'm not exactly sure why though. I've been watching them pretty closely over the past few weeks. Having a new addition to a family is a huge change...having such a unique new addition to a family is something all together. I can't quite figure out if they are struggling with the idea of having a new sibling or having a new sibling of a different race. Neither of them seem to be taking to Benjamin very fondly. They never want to hold him or feed him or even play with him. They've become very distant from Ben and myself, and it has us both worried.

I never want my children to feel unloved in any way. The majority of mine and Ben's attention has lately gone to Benjamin. I will admit, I haven't done the greatest job of attending to my older children's needs as I should. I've been consumed with baby duties and am struggling to fit everything in. I feel like I've neglected Carter and Ben in some ways, and it kills me. Absolutely kills me.